I really didn’t mean to let the entire week go by without posting again but I was so captivated by our last conversation I couldn’t bear to over-ride it.
I have to admit, my first thoughts were to take the post down and create a private forum for our Tuesday night ladies to express away.
However, I realized that as tough as it might be for some of us “Holier” (def: morally and spiritually excellent) types, THIS is what these beautiful, intelligent, God loving ladies want to say. They want to be REAL. For better or for worse.
Our group is made up of 20 women from the ages of 20-42. (‘cept for me 🙂 The majority are early 30’s.
Stay at Home Mom’s
Working Business Women (One Doctor)
Bible Study Teachers
Last night’s group revealed something I can absolutely not completely capture for this mornings blog post.
God is doing something no less than amazing as I watch and listen to them share the cry of their hearts. It is a BATTLE CRY.
This is what we have so far, from my perspective. I am CERTAIN, you will hear from them 🙂
First of all, they are very unhappy with status quo “Church” and have a bit of rebellion going on. That in itself is stressing them out. They do not WANT to be rebellious. According to Thom and Jess Rainer’s the Millennials, this generation wants to honor their parents and their elders. The fact that they are experiencing this inner conflict is very difficult for them to process. BTW-I was thrilled to find some very TIMELY advice on Thom Rainer’s website this morning!!
The Rainer’s suggest the Millennials as generally those born between 1980 and 2000. I have to say however, that have 2 sons born in the 70’s and a daughter born in 1988, all who were all over that book. This group of ladies swim in the same pool.
They feel like they have been playing “Christian Games” for such long time, some of them since birth/childhood, that they are not really sure WHAT they believe about Christianity. Not about GOD, about Christianity.
They live in a world filled with cultural messages that are in direct conflict with Biblical messages (no surprise there) and to be honest, often feel much more acceptance in THAT world!!
Psychologist Lev Vygotsky said “A mind cannot be independent of culture”.
As we “live and move and have our being” in God, we are “living and moving and having our being” in the world God created and constantly bombarded with opportunities to join THAT tribe. This temptation becomes more and more extreme as the “Tribe that Man Built” seems less and less attractive.
These young women feel that the “Church” is failing them either by being so shallow as to not really equip them for the battle through deep understanding of God’s Word, or so “Christian” as to be so focused on what things LOOK LIKE on the outside and not being willing to touch the hard stuff (like what was on last weeks blog) and equip them for real life.
As a rule, they do not “feel safe” in church to express what they think or what they need. That message is like a bull horn in the room.
One woman, when I casually assured her she was in a “SAFE PLACE” in our group, sweetly challenged my words saying she had thought other places to be “SAFE”; things she believed; people she looked up to; only to find they were not “SAFE” at all. How could she KNOW she was “safe” to share who she really is?
So…. a group that was organized for some “Chick Chat” about current cultural messages verses God’s message, has jumped into the deep end and left us all reaching for the floats.
Here is the pondering was stirred in my heart by my daring young sisters after last nights gathering…
Does my life look the same IN church, around my Christian brothers and sisters, than it does when I am AWAY from them? If God were to answer that question for me, what would HE say??
Are there things I do, say, feel, desire and fear that I feel I could NEVER TELL my Christian friends and family because I know they would never approve? My leadership role might be weakened? They think I am stronger, holier, wiser, spiritually mature, all together?
Chime in ladies!!