I lost my Mom last week.
Well-I guess I didn’t “loose” her. I know exactly where she is. She is in heaven. Dancing with my Dad. Organizing something. Creating something. Doing things with other people. But she is NOT here. She is NOT with me and my 3 younger sisters. She is not picking up her phone for me twice a day. She is NOT with her Grandchildren who adore her. She is not enjoying the change of weather that happened the day she passed. We “lost” here as we knew her.
LOSS is a tough road that we all walk at various times in various ways. It is part of the “in this world you will have trouble” words that Jesus spoke. It comes dressed in the passing of loved ones; in jobs or ministries we rely on or love deeply that are stolen or outgrown; in friendships whose season has moved on; in bank accounts that are measured by red stuff instead of green stuff; in just dang disappointments.
When we “loose” something–it is OK to let our hearts rest and reflect. It is OK to cry-scream-shout-watch Netflix for 3 days (hmm—who said that?). It is OK NOT to “produce” or visit or write thank you notes. It is OK to allow the comfort only God can provide to sink deep into our inner most thoughts and tears and lonely moments. It is OK to allow a new normal to wander slowly, silently, tenderly back into our lives and lead us into healing again. It is OK to say NO to a few things that feel not OK to say NO to. It is OK to heal our own way and not be manipulated by “should’s”.
There will come a day, when we have to allow the loss to stand on it’s own and not be wrapped around our feet, hearts, minds or calendars. There will come a day when we have to allow the memories to bring smiles instead of tears and connections instead of set apart. Forgiveness instead of resentment.
Love will lead us into a new normal.
People who are here will be present and cover the bridge between yesterday and today.
New assignments will fill the hollow places left by stolen assignments.
Hope will fill the void left by disappointment.
Love, God’s amazing love, will lift us up. Every single time.
I am praying for those who are walking through LOSS today. I would love to hear from you in the comments below–it helps me know who is listening–who you are and what you need 🙂 Plus–I give FREE STUFF to my readers!
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